My second child arrived two weeks early. It was clear from the moment I held him that stubborn persistence would dominate his personality. Between colic, reflux, and his desire to sleep only for short snippets at a time, I had to adjust quickly to his strong-willed temperament. Otherwise, I would've cried all day, myself!
Although he outgrew the projectile vomiting and began sleeping through the night, one thing that didn't change was his stubborn tendencies.
Tenacity and the persistence to exert one's robust personality is the mark of a gifted being, not a sign of defiance.
I've been a people-pleaser my entire life, I found it difficult to fathom how any child of mine could be testing boundaries at the wee age of six months. But I soon realized that a strong-willed child is a blessing. Tenacity and the persistence to exert one's robust personality is the mark of a gifted being, not a negative sign of defiance.
In her article in Advanced Psychology, Dr. Tali Shenfield captures my second child's essence perfectly:
When appropriately nurtured, these spirited young people often grow up to be great leaders and visionaries—possessing a great deal of creativity, passion, and drive—but conversely, when harshly disciplined, they can turn into distraught and rebellious individuals.
Don’t let a stubborn child wear you down. Embrace her spirit with these smart, positive parenting tips, and you’ll pave the way for a positive outcome.
Make routines work for you
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