Jumat, 08 Maret 2019

5 Reasons to Talk About Trauma

Too often, we don’t talk about the worst things that have happened to us. It’s too humiliating, we’re too scared, we think we’ll break down and never recover, or we think we’re the only ones who went through it and no one would understand.

Trauma isn’t neat and tidy—there are no nice, neat traumatic packages wrapped up with a bow. Instead, it’s messy and confusing. We may want to talk about it, but we don’t know what to say or how to say it.

To make matters worse, when the natural healing process gets stuck, the result is PTSD. The heart of PTSD is avoidance—turning away from anything that reminds us of the trauma, and that includes talking about it. A vicious cycle ensues.

Trauma often occurs person-to-person—assault, rape, crime, violence, atrocities of war, mass shootings. And even traumas that aren’t strictly interpersonal, like natural disasters or medical emergencies, unfold in a social context. How others react to your trauma can chart your course toward recovery or struggle. For example, getting an initial response of blame, criticism, or denial rather than belief and support builds a big speed bump on the road to recovery.

When the natural healing process gets stuck, the result is PTSD. The heart of PTSD is avoidance—turning away from anything that reminds us of the trauma.

But the other side of the coin is true, too. Just as trauma happens person-to-person, much of the healing also happens person-to-person, through acts as simple as talking. 

Of course, everyone deals with trauma differently. Far be it from me to judge how someone copes; venting, complaining, or ruminating, for example, may be necessary at times. But some ways of talking about trauma can supercharge recovery, bringing relief faster. 

Even though it’s hard, there are a million reasons to talk about trauma. Whether with one heart-to-heart conversation or many ongoing discussions over time, this week, here are 6 reasons to talk about trauma:

Reason #1: To Get Support

Scroll through the news and you’ll get an instant primer on trauma in all its forms—war-related violence, sexual assault, child abuse, domestic violence, near-death experiences, school shootings, natural disasters. Think of it as the worst collection of 31 flavors ever.

Trauma was once thought to be rare. Indeed, just a couple of decades ago, even mental health professionals defined trauma as an event “outside the range of usual human experience.” 

But that was before...

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