How to Politely Reject a Friend Request on Facebook
It can be hard to say no to friend requests—whether they come from someone you haven’t seen since your third grade class portrait or from a kooky relative you wouldn’t even talk to at Thanksgiving, let alone on Facebook.
Never fear--there are good, mannerly ways to reject a friend request and not come off like a jerk. Here are my top 3 tips:
Friend Rejection Tip #1: The Sneaky Accept
One easy way to deal with an unwanted friend request is to actually go ahead and accept the person but block them from seeing your updates or, even better, you seeing theirs. That way they aren’t gaining a lot of access to your profile and you’ve saved them from rejection. And if you choose not to see their updates, they’ll be “Out of site, out of mind”; it’ll be as though you never became friends in the first place. Just realize that if you block them from seeing your posts, they’ll probably notice. What do you do then? That brings me to tip#2.
Friend Rejection Tip #2: Keep It Professional
These days, potential employers often check out your Facebook page before extending that offer. Even if you nailed the interview and had them practically cracking open the bottle of Champagne before you left, one quick look on your Facebook page could have all of that crumbling down.
Why? Oh, that’s right: your old college friend just posted those championship party pictures from college where you are hanging from the top of a goal post--wearing only your underwear and a smile--as a gang of police wait for you at the bottom.
If you plan to give future employers or other professional connections access to your Facebook page (and even if you don’t), the old “My Facebook page is for professional use only” defense always works. When you get a friend request from someone you fear might embarrass you—or who you simply don’t want to be friends with—let them know that it’s not personal; it’s business and it’s for your career. Try something like this, “It’s always great to hear from you, but I’ve decided to use Facebook for work only.” You’ve established that you enjoy having this person in your life--somewhere--and have blamed your decision on work, which isn’t personal. If they don’t believe you, well then, that settles that friendship.
Another easy fix if you truly like your potentially embarrassing friends is to create a separate Facebook account you use for work and business only. That way you’ll be have a clean Facebook page for professional use, and you’ll still be able to keep your crazy friends on your personal page.
Friend Rejection Tip #3: You Don’t Always Have To Keep It in The Family
I’m not going to lie, when I got a friend request from my mom, I thought my life was over. I immediately reverted back to when I was 12, the day my mom substituted for my class and gave the two biggest troublemakers detention for an entire week. Guess who had to suffer the consequences come gym class time? Not her! It was the first time I learned (and felt) what an Atomic Wedgie is like. I’m not even going to mention the high school years. I love my mom and despite her initially making her name “Boca Raton” and location “Helene,” she has yet to embarrass me too bad… YET!
Moms are one thing; crazy uncles or wild cousins are another. This one can be a rather difficult road to go down. After all, the last thing you need is your mother calling and asking you why Uncle Arnold told her you won’t accept his friend request. Yes, dear old Uncle Arnold, the guy who posts anti-government rants on his page, is part of a group on Facebook to make Texas its own country, and who put his marital status as “If She Would Just Leave Me Already!” Sorry mom, Uncle Arnold is not someone I care to be associated with.
When dealing with family, you have to be extra careful. I purposely made this one last because you can use a combo of Tip #1 and Tip #2. Face it, they’re family and you can’t escape them. Either block them from seeing what you don’t want them to see or give them the professional excuse. In this case I recommend going with your gut. If the professional excuse won’t fly come Thanksgiving, suck it up and accept with a block. Who knows, talking about Facebook may save you from yet another Uncle Arnold rant.
Do you have a great story about how you handled unfriending or rejecting a friend request? Post them on my Modern Manners Guy Facebook page so we can all laugh with you. As always, if you have another manners question, I’m look forward to hearing from you so drop me a line at manners@quickanddirtytips.com. As well, don’t forget to follow me on Twitter @ MannersQDT. And of course, check back next week for more Modern Manners Guy tips.
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