Rabu, 04 April 2018

The Stories Food Can Tell

but that's another story podcast

Can one story change the course of your life? If anyone knows, it’s Will Schwalbe, bestselling author of The End of Your Life Book Club and Books For Living. In the new podcast, But That’s Another Story, Schwalbe invites notable guests (Katie Couric! NPR reporter Sam Sanders! Pachinko author Min-Jin Lee!) to tell stories of the books and the moments that changed their lives.

Will is also the founder of recipe website Cookstr.com, featuring recipes from hundreds of beloved cookbooks. 

On today's Clever Cookstr episode, listen to Will chat about:
  • The cookbooks that changed how he thought about writing about food and eating, from Jamie Oliver to Nigella Lawson
  • Some of his most memorable meals, and what made them unforgettable
  • The stories that can be told through food and the meals we share with one another
  • And much more!
For more stories about books that change us, check out Will's podcast: But That's Another Story. 


7 Micro Habits That Create Financial Success

7 Micro Habits That Create Financial Success

Daily habits lay the foundation for short- and long-term success with our health, wealth, and happiness, so it’s critical to carefully examine our repetitive behaviors and thought patterns. They’re either moving you closer to your goals or further away from them.

I’ll admit that breaking old habits and forming new, beneficial ones isn’t easy. But one way to create more financial success is to begin layering simple micro habits into your routine that require minimal effort and motivation to complete.

You already have many tiny daily habits, such as brushing your teeth or taking vitamins. Any small step that allows you to stop a negative habit or start a positive one is a micro habit.

They take up little time, but can build up to huge, significant results when you make them part of your routine.

7 Micro Habits That Create Financial Success

  1. Listening to 15 minutes of audio.
  2. Reading one page of a book.
  3. Going to bed 30 minutes earlier.
  4. Buying quality instead of quantity.
  5. Setting a spending waiting period.
  6. Automating your savings.
  7. Saying “no” more often.

Here's how to use these seven micro habits to create more professional and personal financial success.   

1. Listening to 15 minutes of audio.

Everyone has 15 minutes of daily downtime, such as when you get dressed, shave, put on makeup, fold clothes, take a lunch break, or commute. That’s the perfect opportunity to listen to a great podcast or audiobook that improves your life.

No matter if you’re an employee or have a business or side gig, find audio content about your industry so you can stay up-to-date. Or seek topics like customer service, e-commerce, or marketing to find more customers and serve clients at a higher level. Choose anything you want to start doing better and find expert content that moves you forward with information and motivation.

When you surround yourself with positive information, it’s easier to stay informed and inspired. You never know where the information may take you.

The beauty of podcasts and audiobooks is that you can consume portions when you have small windows of time and then pick up where you left off. Start by listening to something new that interests you for just 15 minutes and see how you can incorporate it into your day on a regular basis.

When you surround yourself with positive information, it’s easier to stay informed and inspired. You never know where the information may take you. Listening is a fun way to make small, incremental life changes that make you a little bit better every day.

2. Reading one page of a book.

With so much digital and social media fighting for our attention, making time to read physical books can seem daunting. But reading the old-fashioned way has so many benefits that you don’t get from reading on a device. 

Research suggests that reading electronic text can slow you down by 20% to 30% compared to the speed you read a real book. Feeling the paper and flipping pages creates a deeper sensory experience that helps reading comprehension and remembering what you read.  

Create a micro habit to read just one book page a day. While this might seem like a ridiculously tiny goal, that’s the point. If you read one page, it’s likely that you’ll read several—but it’s okay if you don’t. Taking a long time to read a book is better than not reading one at all.

Build this micro habit into your early morning or nighttime routine. I love snuggling up with a good book to relax before going to sleep. Getting engrossed in a great book can help you learn, reduce stress, and be a signal to your brain that it’s time to wind down.

Consider alternating between fiction and nonfiction to round out your reading. To improve your finances, here are five book recommendations:


3. Going to bed 30 minutes earlier.

Your health lays the foundation for what you can achieve with your money and life. If you’re not taking care of your body, your mind will also suffer. In addition to maintaining a good diet and regular exercise, try going to bed 30 minutes earlier.

Your health lays the foundation for what you can achieve with your money and life. If you’re not taking care of your body, your mind will also suffer.

That extra time might allow you to read a book before drifting off or get a better night’s sleep. I love watching TV with my husband after dinner, but I try to set a limit of one hour or two. As fun as it can be to stay up late watching your favorite TV shows, it’s probably not helping you achieve your goals.

Instead, begin your bedtime routine a little earlier so you can wake up feeling recharged, focused, and able to accomplish more. You only have one life, so don’t make a habit of wasting time.   

4. Buying quality instead of quantity.

One micro habit to pare down your possessions and enjoy them more is to buy less stuff, but choose higher quality items. It’s easy to fall into the trap of buying lots of clothes, shoes, or home furnishings because they’re on sale or seem like an irresistible “bargain” in the moment.

I love a sale as much as the next person, but I find that when I buy higher quality items, I cherish and take better care of them than I do for cheap stuff. I use a “one in, one out” rule that forces me to sacrifice a similar item when I buy something new.

For example, if I buy running shoes, I need to sacrifice an old pair. Got a new top or pair of jeans? I must pick one that I haven’t worn in the past year to donate to Goodwill.

Sometimes I push myself to get rid of two items for each one that I add to my clothes closet, kitchen, or book shelves to make sure I’m slowly cutting down, instead of accumulating. This is more of a mindset shift than a daily habit, but can really transform the way you spend money on material possessions.

5. Setting a spending waiting period.

In addition to buying less, creating a rule that you must wait a minimum of 24 hours before buying anything over a certain amount, such as $50 or $100, is a key micro habit for financial success. By “sleeping on it,” you decide with a clear mind if buying a discretionary item is a need, or just a random impulse purchase. Often, you’ll have a change of heart and realize you didn’t need or want it anyway.

In addition to buying less, creating a rule that you must wait a minimum of 24 hours before buying anything over a certain amount, such as $50 or $100, is a key micro habit for financial success.

If you’re shopping in a brick and mortar store and find something you want over your price limit, take a picture of it and its price. You can revisit the item at least 24 hours later and even take the time to do comparison shopping online.


I also recommend calculating what an item costs you in time. Here’s a shortcut to convert your annual income into an hourly rate: If you earn $50,000 a year, shorten it to $50, then take half, which equals $25 per hour. So, if a new pair of boots cost $250, earning $25 per hour means they’d cost you 10 hours of work—before taxes.

Are new boots worth the equivalent of a long workday? Only you can decide. Doing time value calculations and waiting 24 hours are micro habits that can instantly reframe how you think about making a purchase.

6. Automating your savings.

A micro habit that you can put on autopilot is automating savings and investments. The idea is that what you don’t see in your bank account, you can’t spend.

That’s why workplace retirement plans with automatic payroll deductions, such as 401ks or 403bs, work so well. So, contribute as much as you can at work, or create a recurring transfer to move money from your checking to an IRA or bank savings account, as soon as you’re paid.

It’s OK to start small. Even investing $50 a month is better than nothing. If you invested that much for 40 years and earned a conservative 6% return, you’d have $100,000.

Creating your accounts and setting the savings automation infrastructure is what’s most important to build wealth and move your finances in a positive direction.

See also: 8 Financial Truths That Can Change Your Life

7. Saying “no” more often.

Saying “no” to negative people or invitations that don’t align with your goals is a wise micro habit to develop. It can be much harder to do the right things when you’re around other people’s drama and conflicts.

The people you surround yourself with have a major influence over who you become. So, don’t let negative influences penetrate your mind. Stay true to who you are and what you want to accomplish.

Instead of acting unconsciously and being jerked around by unproductive impulses, use these tiny habits to ease into a new world of positive behaviors and outcomes.

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Selasa, 03 April 2018

Are the Benefits of Fish Oil Overrated?

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The idea that fish oil and omega-3s are good for your heart has been nutrition orthodoxy for decades. A few dissonant voices have argued that this particular emperor has no clothes. But they have largely been drowned out by the crowd. The American Heart Association recommends a fish oil supplement for those who don’t eat the recommended two 0r more servings of fish per week. And that’s basically everyone.

Fish oil supplements are now the third most popular nutritional supplement. There have been concerns about possible contaminants in commercial fish oil supplements, as well as the negative effects of over-fishing in order to produce enough fish oil to meet the demand. But the presumed benefits have largely overshadowed these concerns. But just how firm is the evidence to support their use?

What's the Evidence on Fish Oil?

Epidemiological studies have found that people who eat more fish and/or take in more omega-3s have lower rates of death from cardiovascular and other diseases. Randomized trials have established that fish oil supplements reduce inflammation and lower triglycerides. But as recently as 2010, authors of a scholarly article on “Fish oil for the Treatment of Cardiovascular Disease” conceded that “The role of omega-3 fatty acids in reducing mortality, sudden death, arrhythmias, myocardial infarction, and heart failure has not yet been established.”

That was 2010. Over the years following, trials showing that fish oil supplements did not, in fact, reduce the risk of heart attacks or death began to pile up. And just this month, researchers published the results of a large meta-analysis looking at ten different clinical trials in which people with heart disease (or at high risk of developing it) took either fish oil supplements or a placebo. Overall, they could detect “no significant association with fatal or nonfatal coronary heart disease or any major vascular events” and concluded that there is “no support for current recommendations for the use of such supplements in people with a history of coronary heart disease.”

Bam.

But what about people without a history or risk factors for heart disease? Could taking fish oil supplements keep them from developing heart disease? Unfortunately, that is a question that has not been well studied, in part because a trial to test this hypothesis would have to be very long and, therefore, extremely expensive. 

The potential benefits of omega-3s are not limited to preventing heart disease. Omega-3s may also play a role in reducing the risk of depression and cognitive decline and can reduce pain and stiffness for people with arthritis and other inflammatory conditions.

A Whole Foods Approach

Personally, I don’t think we’ve overestimated the value of omega-3 fats. But we may have underestimated the benefits of getting our omega-3 from whole foods instead of supplements.


Perhaps some of the heart-protective mojo of fish oil and omega-3s comes from eating fish as opposed to taking a capsule. After all, the obsession with fish oil and omega-3s began when it was observed that indigenous peoples living in Greenland had much lower rates of heart disease than Danes who lived nearby.

The Greenland Inuit had much higher intakes of omega-3, but not from fish oil supplements. The oily fish that they fished out of the Arctic waters was a staple of their traditional diet. They ate very little red meat or poultry.  The nearby Danes, on the other hand, ate much less seafood and a lot more fresh and cured meat.

Giving omega-3 supplements to people who continue to eat a lot of beef or poultry might not have the same effects as replacing some of that meat with fish.

Flooding the body with more omega-3s can help, but reducing the amount of omega-6 may be just as useful.

In my 30-Day Nutrition Upgrade program, which many of you have done with me, players earn points for eating fish on a given day but not for taking a fish oil supplement. This is because the benefits of our food choices are often not limited to the nutrients that we get from eating those foods. It's also something about what we are not eating because we’re eating those foods instead.

If you’re eating some grilled salmon for dinner, for example, chances are pretty good that you’re not eating a hot dog. Not only are you getting the omega-3s and other nutrients that are in that fish, you’re also not taking in all of the less healthy fats and sodium nitrites in cured meats.

Should You Ditch Your Omega-3 Supplement?

High-quality fish oil supplements are not inexpensive—and the return on investment isn’t looking so hot these days. If your doctor has recommended that you take a fish oil supplement, you should definitely consult with her before stopping. But if you’re just taking one on the off chance that it might do some good, that money might be better spent on a nice piece of fish, two or three times a week. If you don’t like cooking fish at home, order it when you eat out! But cooking fish at home is nothing to fear.

Here's a quick video showing one of my favorite ways to prepare fish.

Get More Benefit from Less Omega-3

There’s also a way to get more benefit from without necessarily taking more omega-3s. You can reduce your intake of omega-6 fats, which are found primarily in corn, soy, and vegetable oils and those foods made with (or fried in) them.

Omega-6 aren’t bad for you, as is sometimes suggested. In fact, both omega-3s and omega-6s are essential nutrients. However, they share some common metabolic pathways and compete for some of the same enzymes.

The problem is that omega-6 fats tend to be a bit more competitive. When there’s too much omega-6 on hand, the omega-3s can be crowded out, never reaching their intended targets. Flooding the body with more omega-3s can help, but reducing the amount of omega-6 may be just as useful.

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The Best Way to Use Compression Gear

Two runners wearing compression garments

Listener Maurine recently asked me about compression gear on Twitter. This is what she said: "I’d be interested in learning more about leg compression recovery systems. I’ve got lots of compression socks and pants. I'm looking more at machines." Well, Maurine, today I am going to go through both!

What is Compression Clothing?

What was once an industry supported by nurses and waitstaff, these skin-tight duds have gained popularity beyond the medical field and your local all-night diner.

Compression garments are often marketed as a type of magical second skin that is going to improve your athleticism. When reading the ads you might believe that by simply tossing on a pair of tight pants or socks you are going to be able to run faster, jump higher, and lift heavier. But it is not really like that.

For one, compression gear doesn’t provide enough support to make your muscles perform any different than normal. Despite what it feels like, that invincible feeling you get from sliding on those hardcore looking socks is mostly in your head. Your muscles may feel more supported, but that support is minimal. We’ll get into that later.

What was once an industry that was mainly supported by nurses and waitstaff, these skin-tight duds have gained popularity beyond the medical field and your local all-night diner. While some compression gear manufacturers promote their products as a quick and easy way to get the appearance of a flat belly, enhanced chest, or slim legs, the fitness industry has marketed their compression gear more specifically for muscle recovery and physical performance.

Even though we see compression gear being worn by everyone from NBA Players to Triathletes these days, the studies and science of using these garments during an event is hard to nail down. Some researchers say that wearing compression socks or pants during a workout or event can help decrease muscle vibrations (which can cause muscle bruising) and other researchers say that the benefits of compression are mostly related to improved blood flow and circulation.

On the other hand, evidence that wearing these garments after or between workouts and events can improve workout recovery is more substantial. These researchers say that if you wear them after exercise, that extra tightness around your body has been shown to reduce delayed onset muscle soreness by promoting optimal blood flow to those muscles that get beat up during exercise.   

What's the Science Behind Compression?

I am not going to bore you with recounting all 16 studies that I just pored over on whether or not compression garments help with performance or recovery. (Or both.) But I will give you a quick summary of the results.

First the results of the studies where the athletes wore the compression stockings during the workout.

Does Compression Help During Exercise?

  1. There was no significant difference in 10km times, heart rate, or blood lactate levels regardless of the type of stocking worn.
  2. There were no significant differences in oxygen uptake, heart rate, or blood lactate during the runs. There were no benefits post-exercise.
  3. There were no differences in performance or other measures except for muscle soreness which was less after using the compression stockings.
  4. With compression garments, there were greater distances covered and faster velocities, although the enhancements were minimal.
  5. There was no performance enhancement in the time trial (as measured by total work achieved in kilojoules).
  6. There were no differences in performance, ratings, of perceived exertion, muscle soreness, time to exhaustion, and lactate concentrations.

Now let’s look at the results from the studies where the athletes wore the compression garments as a recovery tool.

Does compression Help During Recovery?

  1. The decrease in max power was less when the compression stockings were worn during the preceding recovery and lactate was significantly decreased with the compression stockings also.
  2. After 10km running trials, recreationally active men experienced a reduction in delayed-onset muscle soreness 24 hours after wearing compression stockings (18-22 mmHg) compared with traditional sports socks.
  3. For the first experiment (VO2 max tests) there was no difference in VO2 max with or without compression stockings. But blood lactate levels after the test were lower with compression stockings. For the second experiment (3-minute max efforts) post-exercise lactate was lower only when compression stockings were worn during recovery.
  4. Measures of recovery were sprint speed, agility, vertical jump height, and flexibility. Cold-water produced better recovery results than carbs + stretching or the compression garments.
  5. Post-exercise lactate removal was significantly faster with compression stockings.
  6. Compression stockings improved all markers of recovery except for creatine kinase (a marker of muscle cell damage).
  7. Wearing a full-body compression garment for 24 hours after a challenging, heavy-resistance strength workout enhanced psychological, physiological and performance markers of recovery when compared with non-compressive garments

So, all in all, it’s looking like a slam dunk for the recovery aspect of compression gear.

So, all in all, it’s looking like a slam dunk for the recovery aspect of compression gear. I am tempted to slip on some tight socks and call it a day, but there are still a couple of ways you can use compression that we haven’t talked about yet.


Compression for Weight Loss?

As you probably guessed, most of the research on compression gear is focused on performance and recovery, but there are also claims that compression can benefit people who are overweight. Specifically, compression gear has been touted as especially helpful for larger folks.

Exercisers that carry larger amounts of weight are often more susceptible to repetitive use injuries like strains, shin splints, sprains, and other joint issues. This is especially true when they are starting a new training program. Compression gear can actually help compress muscles against a person’s skeleton and minimize the tiny muscle tears that are caused by muscle vibration and oscillation.

It is true that larger bodies move more during exercise and compression gear can limit that movement and possibly prevent some of that wear and tear. But could it also help with losing weight?

Well, no. All the claims that I could find skirted the issue quite adeptly and only made assertions that compression can aid in the exercise portion of an overweight person's weight loss regimen. This is assuming that the types of workouts overweight people are engaged in usually involve higher volume and higher intensity. So, wearing compression gear could aid in minimizing that muscle damage we talked about earlier and also help overweight people recover faster so they can be more consistent in their training. All of these factors can certainly help with fat loss but not in a very direct route or as a direct result of the compression.

So it would seem that compression is not a magic sock for weight loss. It doesn't burn more calories, and it doesn’t boost your metabolism—no surprise there—but if compression gear makes you feel more comfortable when you move, helps you get back at it faster, and perhaps gives you confidence in your appearance, then it is probably a worthwhile investment.

Peristaltic Pulse Dynamic Compression (PPDC)

The key to this type of compression is something called “Sequential Pulse Technology,” which is based on our own body’s physiology. These dynamic compression machines replicate the action of blood pumping through the veins in our legs, arms, torso, or wherever else you apply it, and they liken it to peristalsis (a series of wave-like muscle contractions) on steroids.

These are systems that usually include a control unit, air compressor, and attachments (or sleeves) for the legs, arms, or hips. They use compressed air to inflate and then deflate the sleeves to massage your limbs and mobilize fluid. They first pre-inflate, so that the sleeves become molded to your exact body shape, then they begin compressing your feet, hands, or upper quad depending on which sleeve you are using. Similar to the way an RMT will rub, knead, gouge, and apply variable pressure during a massage, each segment of the attached sleeve will compress, pulse, and release.

The technology behind these machines combines three different massage techniques to aid the body’s recovery process.

Pulsing: Instead of using static compression like the socks and pants we talked about earlier to squeeze fluid out of the limbs, this technology uses dynamic compression (or pulsing). This is said to greatly enhance the movement of fluid and metabolic waste out of the limbs after a workout.

Gradients: In our bodies, our veins and lymphatic vessels have a one-way valve that prevents the backflow of fluid and keeps everything moving in one direction. The Sequential Pulse Technology uses what is called a gradient hold pressure to keep your body’s fluids from being forced down to your feet. And this can help deliver maximum pressure all over the entire limb, evenly.

Distal release: Because squishing your body for extended amounts of time can be hard on your body’s circulatory flow, the Sequential Pulse Technology releases its grip once it is no longer needed to prevent backflow. By releasing the pressure as soon as possible, each portion of your limb gets the perfect amount of rest and the perfect amount of compression.


What does Science Say about Peristaltic Pulse Dynamic Compression?

Again, I won’t bore you with going through each of the studies with a fine-tooth comb but once again, here are the highlights:

  1. We conclude that PPDC is a promising means of accelerating and enhancing recovery after the normal aggressive training that occurs in Olympic and aspiring-Olympic athletes.
  2. An acute bout of PPCD transiently upregulates PGC-1α mRNA (related to cellular metabolism), while also upregulating eNOS protein and NOx concentrations in vastus lateralis biopsy samples.
  3. PPDC provides a means of rapidly enhancing acute ROM requiring less discomfort and time.
  4. Acutely, whole limb, lower pressure PPCD improves conduit artery endothelial function systemically and improves RH blood flow locally (i.e., compressed limbs).

Based on what I read and saw, if you can justify the dough (these devices are not cheap) and recovery time is a significant factor for you, the PPDC machines are clearly the way to go. 

How Tight is Tight Enough?

Compression is meant to be tight but not restrictive and certainly tight enough that you feel compressed.

One study, in particular, looked at the effect of three different sizes of compressing gear: normal clothing, compression garment fitted to the manufacturer’s instructions, and one size smaller than was recommended by the manufacturer. The researchers found that the one-size-too-small compression garment caused a drop in performance for both power and strength in tests when compared to the properly fitted compression garment. But both sizes were better than the control, so there is clearly an optimal fit but also this shows that any compression was better than no compression, at least in this study.

An interesting theory that was proposed for the performance benefits during the previous test is the increased stiffness at the joints that the athletes experienced when wearing compression garments. If we take this theory a step further, it might suggest that the tighter the compression, the better the performance. But that was not the case in the study so even when taking that into account, it seems there is indeed either an optimal stiffness for compression gear or there is a more subtle interplay of many different factors going on.

In any case, a good rule of thumb when you are choosing your gear is that compression is meant to be tight but not restrictive and certainly tight enough that you feel compressed. And as with the previous study, following the recommendations of the manufacturer will likely yield the best results.

Should You Wear Compression?

After looking at all the studies, it is clear that compression is no panacea. It is not going to fix your running form, increase your vertical leap, or eliminate muscle soreness from your athletic life. But I do see enough beneficial evidence to warrant giving it a try if you are interested or can find some on sale at your local sporting goods store.

Keep in mind that your legs are the largest muscle group in your body and wearing compression there will likely return the best and most noticeable recovery results. But a compression top can also help to support your chest, abdomen, and arms and can give you a feeling of comfortable tightness. If that extra support helps you to get out the door for your workout, helps you last longer during your workout, and perhaps helps you feel ready for your next workout sooner, well then I think we have ourselves a winner. But no matter how much all that spandex makes you feel like a superhero, please don’t try to outrun a locomotive. 

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How to Avoid Misunderstandings When Asking Questions

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Today, we’re going to be talking about clear communication. Specifically, questions.

It’s been a rough day at Green Growing Things, Bernice’s little plant shop, which specializes in hard-to-find species like the carnivorous Audrey IIs. The store is in the running for first place in the Guinness Book of World Records for healthiest Audrey IIs raised with no inadvertent missing persons reports. The inspection team is due to arrive in just a few minutes. 

Bernice is beside herself checking last-minute details. “Europa!” she screams, “Why did you water the Audrey IIs so much?” Europa, who is usually the cashier and not the plant caretaker, is puzzled. “What are you talking about?” “The entire watering can is empty! How could you be so careless?” responds Bernice. As you can imagine, the conversation devolves from there.

We don’t ask what we mean

I’ve noticed over the last several years that often we—and by “we,” I mean, almost everyone, including me!—don’t ask what we really want to know. 

What Bernice is actually concerned about is whether the Audrey IIs have been over-watered. But she didn’t ask that. Instead, she asked Europa’s reason for watering the plants so much. While sometimes, it might be obvious what she really wants to know, an awful lot of the time it actually isn’t. 

We have hidden context

When we ask a question, we have a mental context for the question. We know some things. We don’t know others. We have certain goals. And all of that is invisible to the person we’re asking. It’s rather astonishing that any successful communication happens, ever.

Bernice’s goal is to have healthy plants. As it happens, the only information she has is a big watering can that’s totally empty, sitting next to the Audrey II holding pens. She has assumed that the can was full, and that all the water was used to water the plants.

Check your assumptions

Before you ask a question, especially if you’re upset, do a quick mental inventory. Ask “what’s my real concern?” and see if you can make your question directly reflect what you need to know. Ask “what’s the evidence that prompted my question?” and include that, too, if it makes sense.

Instead of “Why did you water the Audrey IIs so much?” Bernice’s real concern is whether they’re over-watered. She can ask instead, “I’m concerned that we keep the plants healthy. I saw the empty watering can and want to know if it’s possible you over-watered the plants?” She incorporates her goal (healthy plants), what she knows (there’s an empty watering can), and her real question (whether the plants have been over-watered).

Some other examples of questions we might ask, and the real question we want answered:

  • “How is the inventory coming along?” becomes “I haven’t seen the inventory status report yet. Are we on track to get it done by our month-end deadline?”
  • “Have you called your prospect, yet?” becomes “I haven’t heard about Prospect X, so I don’t know our revenue status. Are we on track to meet our sales goals?”

A question that asks what you really want to know, and that makes it clear what evidence (or lack of evidence) is triggering the question, has a much greater chance of getting the answer you actually need. A question with context is better than a question all by its lonesome. 

We don’t answer what we’re asked

A flip side of the same issue is that we often don’t answer the question we’re asked. Sometimes, it’s because we’re trying to answer what we think they really mean, other times, it’s because we’re just lazy. 

Europa asks Bernice, “What’s the address for our meeting with the Guinness team?” Bernice answers, “I’m pretty sure it’s in the calendar invite.” Bernice has just added an additional back-and-forth to the exchange. She could have looked in the calendar invite herself (after all, she’s going to need the address too) and sent it to Europa. 

Of course, Bernice may have been subtly trying to train Europa to check the calendar invite. She can just say that: “The address is 1010 Anytown Lane. I’m pretty sure it’s in the calendar invite. If you didn’t check there, it would save us both time if you could look there first next time.” 

Conflict had come from differing knowledge.

What Bernice doesn’t know is that Europa did check the invite, but the calendar program had screwed up the address field making it unreadable. By answering the question as it was asked, everyone has the answer. By acknowledging that she didn’t know if Europa had checked the calendar invite or not, and then making the retraining comment explicit, all the assumptions and motives are on the table. Europa can simply reply, “Thanks! My calendar invite wasn’t readable, and of course I’ll check that first next time.”

On the way to Anytown Lane, Bernice and Europa reviewed their earlier exchange. Their conflict had come from differing knowledge. Bernice assumed the watering can had been full and the plants over-watered. Nope. Europa had only filled it halfway, and the plants were fine. Knowing both sides, Europa understood Bernice’s concern, and Bernice knew to check her assumptions next time. They arrived for the Guinness meeting with time to spare. The plants were so healthy and happy that Green Growing Things was awarded the world record. 

Communication can be tricky. When it comes to asking questions, we know why we’re asking and what’s triggering us to ask. The person we’re talking with doesn’t, however. By making your experience explicit and asking your real question, you’re more likely to get the response you want, with a minimum of drama. And when answering others’ questions, answer the question they asked, and then go on to address what you believe may have been the real question behind the question.

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How and When Did the Grand Canyon Form?

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In the northwest corner of the state of Arizona, the Grand Canyon stretches 277 miles (446 km) long and 18 miles (29 km) at its widest. The canyon cuts as deep as a little over a mile (or 1800 m).

Named Ongtupqa in the Hopi language, the canyon is considered a passageway to the afterlife. The United States government gave the Grand Canyon national park status when President Woodrow Wilson signed the Grand Canyon National Park Act in 1919. The canyon is also home to 373 species of birds, 91 species of mammals, 58 species of reptiles and amphibians, and 18 species of fish, and sees over 5 million visitors each year.

Our fascination with the Grand Canyon has led to thousands of studies of its layered rock, its marine and terrestrial fossils, and its wildlife inhabitants. Geologists agree that the layers of colored rock that form the canyon’s walls are as old as 1.8 billion years. Scientists also agree that the great crevice in the Earth’s surface was cut away by the flow of the Colorado River. However one question is still debated: when exactly did this erosion happen?

When Did the Grand Canyon Form?

The region we now know as the Grand Canyon has changed dramatically over our planet’s history, at different times hosting multiple mountain ranges. Those mountains were eventually worn down by rain, wind, and frost until finally forming a plateau that was slowly but consistently carved little by little by the flow of the Colorado River.

There is substantial evidence that the Grand Canyon formed around 5 to 6 million years ago, and geologically speaking, that’s very recent. One spot that suggests to geologists that the Canyon is so young is known as Muddy Creek, home to a buildup of gravel, limestone, and lava. The lack of the type of sediment normally found in the Colorado River suggests the region was formed prior to the Colorado River passing through. If the river could not have exited the canyon through this spot any earlier than 5 to 6 million years ago, this sets an approximate upper limit to the age of the canyon.

But the findings from a few recent studies have begun to support the longstanding theory that the Grand Canyon was actually formed by the merging of two smaller “ancestral” canyons, one in the east and one in the west. In a 2012 study published in the journal Science, a team of geologists led by Professor Rebecca Flowers of the University of Colorado, Boulder, examined the concentrations of helium in different samples of rock from the east and west ends of the canyon.


Helium is produced by the decay of radioactive uranium found within a type of calcium phosphate mineral called an apatite that layers the walls of the Grand Canyon. When the apatite gets too close to the Earth’s surface, it’s temperature decreases, and helium can no longer escape from the rock through diffusion. Thus the amount of helium found in the rock layers offers clues as to that rock’s temperature history or when that rock reached the surface and thus when that portion of the canyon was formed. Flowers and her team used this method of thermochronology to determine the western portion of the Grand Canyon was already carved to within 70% of its current depth as long as 70 million years ago—a lot older than the original estimates of a few million years. The authors of the study found the eastern end of the canyon to be younger, around 15-25 million years old.

In the Grand Canyon, we are able to study millions of years of geologic evolution all in one place thanks to the 40 layers of rock that make up the canyon’s walls.

Using the same age dating techniques, a different group from the University of New Mexico in Albuquerque has come up with similar results, also placing the age of the eastern portion of the canyon at 15-25 million years. However, although their helium abundance results are similar, using different values for the temperature of the Earth’s surface and other differing initial conditions, they set the age for the western paleocanyon a bit younger, from 50 to 70 million years in a 2012 study published in Nature.

If the western side does date back to 70 million years ago, such an old age would mean the carving of the canyon predates the Colorado River as we know it today. Put another way, the original western paleocanyon was carved out by a cretaceous river to within a few hundred meters of its current depth, with the eastern paleocanyon having been carved to a lesser extent, before the Colorado River took over, merging the two canyons and creating a single drainage spot, at the relatively young, 6-million-year-old Muddy Creek.

In the Grand Canyon, we are able to study millions of years of geologic evolution all in one place thanks to the 40 layers of rock that make up the canyon’s walls. The Grand Canyon tells us about the environmental changes the Earth has faced and offers us a chance to marvel at the power of our planet to reshape itself.

Until next time, this is Sabrina Stierwalt with Everyday Einstein’s Quick and Dirty Tips for helping you make sense of science. You can become a fan of Everyday Einstein on Facebook or follow me on Twitter, where I’m @QDTeinstein. If you have a question that you’d like to see on a future episode, send me an email at everydayeinstein@quickanddirtytips.com.

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Senin, 02 April 2018

5 Strategies to Handle a Rebellious Child

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For the past decade or so of my parenting journey, I’ve had at least four teenagers at a time. Many gasp at this because they have their hands full with only one or two teens. After spending one summer with four kids under the age of three, I consider having a boatload of teens a piece of cake!

Parenting tweens and teens can definitely be a mixed bag of emotional discoveries. It’s exciting and rewarding to see your child begin to gain greater independence and grow into a young adult who will be venturing out in the real world where he/she will make a positive difference in the lives of others. On the other hand, most teens don’t just arrive at their destiny without a few emotional hiccups along the way. This includes behaviors such as disrespect, being sneaky, manipulating the rules you’ve created for your household, having negative attitudes and, at times, full blown rebellion.

It’s easy and normal to feel despair and a sense that you’re losing control when your child begins to exhibit rebellious behaviors, but there are strategies you can put in place if your contentious young adult starts to give you lots of grief. Here are five ways to combat rebellion so you can relish time with your offspring once again.

5 Strategies to Handle a Rebellious Child

  1. What’s Happening?
  2. Reevaluate Your Rules and Discipline
  3. Practice Patience
  4. Allow Your Child Some Control
  5. Look for the Positive

Let's explore these rebellion management tips in more detail.

1. What’s Happening

Some parents are surprised when their once easy-going and pleasant-tempered child seems to change personalities overnight. It might start with some flip backtalk when you ask your daughter to remember to get her tennis gear out of the entryway before someone trips on it. Or your once-responsible tween son has decided he’s no longer going to walk the dog and take out the trash before he starts his homework, if in fact he even does his homework anymore. Huh? What’s up with that?

Parents know their kids better than anyone, so if you’re noticing different behaviors that just don’t reflect the personality you’re used to seeing, do some investigating to figure out what might be going on. It might be something as simple as having a crush on a girl in biology class who isn’t giving him the time of day or maybe your daughter is being bullied by the mean girls during lunch.

It’s quite normal, however, for most teens to test authority when they want to exert their independence and get out from under their parent’s constant watch and supervision. In addition, studies have shown that a teen’s brain is still not done forming and growing which also leads to emotional outbursts. David Elkind, PhD, author of All Grown Up and No Place to Go and professor of child development at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston, explains that “During the teenage years, the area of the brain called the prefrontal cortex is developing. This is the part of your brain that is behind your forehead. It's your thinking cap and judgment center, which means kids can now develop their own ideals and ideas.” He elaborates that “In turn this means that younger children don't see the flaws in their parents, whereas adolescents suddenly see the world more realistically.”

By being tuned in as to why your child is starting to buck the rules in your home, you have a better starting point to course correct this negative behavior.

2. Reevaluate Your Rules and Discipline

If you’ve always been a household that has had rules such as expectations for homework, strict curfews, and a zero tolerance policy on disrespect, you’re lucky that boundaries are already established and your child knows the deal. If you’ve been wishy-washy or inconsistent with rules, it’s time to figure out your bottom line on what’s acceptable and not in your home and then stick with it.

Regardless of whether you’ve had rules in place or not, now is the time to reevaluate this scenario and either tweak things to accommodate the stage your family is now at or establish new guidelines going forward. More importantly, however, is that you need to take the time to review these with your kids. Don’t screech and threaten that you will have new rules effective immediately in the heat of the moment after your child just came home with a failing report card or after he’s called you a lazy wench because you won’t help him clean his room. Call a family meeting when everyone is calm and present the rules then.

If you’re going to set rules, however, you need to enforce them. This means being consistent which truthfully is half the battle when it comes to parenting! In 4 Ways to Handle Teenage Defiance and Rebellion, my QDT colleague Dr. Ellen Hendriksen recommends including your tween or teen in creating solutions for chronically disrespectful situations. This is a win/win for both parent and child because when a rebellious action takes place, you can enforce the discipline that he/she decided was fair.

3. Practice Patience

Patience is a virtue in many aspects of life, but when it comes to parenting—boy, is it ever! We live in such a world of instant gratification—microwaved meals, instant credit, announcements in the blink of an eye on social media venues—so when we are faced with difficulties on the home front, it’s only natural that you want the problem to go away instantaneously. Unfortunately, correcting a bad or disturbing behavior takes time, and it’s here that you must rely on patience. My favorite tip in my article on ways to be a more patient parent is to practice patience daily.


Like any habit, you need to work on it consistently and make it a part of your everyday life. One way that I have gained much more patience in my busy life with eight kids is by talking to myself and adapting a mantra. Find a mantra for yourself that you can recite when you feel yourself getting edgy. Mine has always been, “This Too Shall Pass.” I rely on these sacred words constantly, and because I’ve been practicing it for years now, it instantly calms me down and helps me focus on the positive. Adapting a regular patience protocol is a winning strategy when you’re dealing with explosive situations in your family and it definitely shows your child that you’re not going to fight fire with fire and retaliate with a hothead mentality.

4. Allow Your Child Some Control

Giving your child a sense of control is a good way to let them exert their independence. As I mentioned in tip #2, by allowing your tween to help decide appropriate consequences when a rule is broken, it helps him/her be part of the process instead of being dictated and controlled by you, the parent. Many times your child will intentionally try to egg you on because he knows exactly how you’ll respond—by yelling or fighting back. That essentially allows them to win because they know how to get a rise out of you. When you give them options to make choices and have some control in the matter, you’re showing them that you value their opinion, and you’ll have a much better chance at compliance.

As you navigate through a difficult time of defiance and rebellion, take time to find things that your child is doing right.

Alan Kazdin, professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale University and author of more than 40 books including The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child notes that "The problem with 'defiance' is that it puts something in the child. It's not in the child. You can really make defiant children very compliant, actually, many of them, even most of them. It's in what you do to get that compliance." In Parent Acts: How to deal with a defiant child he elaborates: "The real choice is not anywhere near as important in life as the perception of choice, and so it doesn't matter that the child doesn't have a real choice. What matters is that in giving that [choice], you increase compliance."

5. Look For the Positive

Unfortunately, many of us tend to focus on the negative and what needs correcting in our children’s lives rather than what they are doing right, and when they are acting out and rebelling it’s certainly easier to tune in to their bad behavior and overlook anything that’s going well.

Instead, focus on the positive and offer encouragement when he does something desirable, no matter how small the action may be. Years ago, I learned a wonderful tip from our elementary school. It was called “Caught in the Act.” Basically the teachers and staff would look for opportunities to catch the child doing something good. If they were caught in the act of doing a good deed or exhibiting positive behavior, they were written up and given a ticket praising their good action in writing. They were thrilled and positively beamed every time they received a ticket! I loved the idea so much I implemented it in our own home, and have been doing it with my eight kids for nearly 15 years now.

As you navigate through a difficult time of defiance and rebellion, take time to find things that your child is doing right. A higher test grade than usual in a difficult subject? Getting home half an hour earlier than curfew? Getting up in the morning and not complaining about how tough her life is? When you look for the positive and reinforce these moments with a nod of praise, it definitely helps soften the rough, crusty edges of a contentious, rebellious stage.

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